High schools girls

Let's start with the nice- I picked up this tartan mini-dress at the same time I bough the checked-Miss Selfridge dress I wore at the Flower Festival and was pleased with it. I did feel like an extra from Neighbours or Home and Away in it! It definitely had that High school look to it! Worn with Primark pumps (bought for dancing) and vintage earrings and Wolf-moon necklace- probably not really visible!) Sophie asked about my bag. It was a gorgeous present from a handbag-obsessed TA from my school who asked if I would like it as she'd bought another satchel! Now the not so nice. Every so often, I feel the need to have a little rant on here about something. Well, I'm not going to have an uber rant but there was a conversation between two young (newish) Teaching assistants in the staffroom at lunchtime today that really riled me. They were talking about a previous school they'd worked at and they talked about a drunk colleague trying it on with them. One remarked that there are some people that want to get up the ladder and the conversation moved onto someone who 'must have wanted to move up or something like that. They then said, "I couldn't believe it when I found out that _____ had a boyfriend because she was ugly/disgusting, had no dress sense so she must be easy, that's why he's with her" Instantly, I felt really disgusted at such shallow, horrid comment. Firstly, calling someone ugly like that and judging them negatively on their clothes (I like making positive comments about things people wear- I don't think of the opposite at all!). Just writing someone off like that. I felt compelled to say something and I said, (it wasn't my conversation by the way, I was just sitting at the table eating soup) "I'm sure she's a nice person and that's why he's with her,". To which they instantly retorted that she had no personality, she was really boring and dull and didn't say anything. I responded saying, "She's probably the type of person that doesn't feel comfortable around certain types of people (NAMELY judgmental 'in-crowd' types like you. Didn't say it but wish I had done) and she shines with people she feels comfortable with, not with those that she feels uncomfortable around." At which point, they just totally blanked me and continued with their conversation of bitching and I just had to walk out of there and go into the toilet. I was fuming. How horrid of them! Why oh why do people have to judge based on looks. Do they not know that people have a comfort zone? I regard myself as not pretty,(I know I have a nice smile though!) and if I feel uncomfortable around 'in-crowd' types, I really find it hard to talk/ come across well and yet I shine in many other types of company. During my PGCE, my main geographical group was totally the in-crowd type and perhaps that's why I never really gelled with them, they were too concerned with being popular and excluding anyone who wasn't one of them. Perhaps people wonder how come I had such a lovely boyfriend (incidently, not easy- quite the oppposite in fact) but the thought of people sitting there being so rude and horrible about it makes me really cross. It makes me all the more glad and firmly believe that Jesus's standard of not judging by worldly standards but by trying to see the beauty and value in everyone is all the more important to try and hold to. And be sure to call me up on anything I say if you feel I am not holding to this. I am by NO means someone who doesn't say mean thing at times, I am quite sure I do, and I am sorry for and repent of those. But I do not want to conform to such worldly standards. I am quite sure that all my lovely blog friends here would never say anything as nasty as what I heard earlier and that is why I like this community, I don't experience such things here, but see kind girls who build each other up and encourage each other. And largely, that's what and who I experience in life too. I just needed to comment on something when it is so alien to what I am used to and expect. Forgive me if you think I am over-reacting. Perhaps I am, but I did feel the need to say something, even if not directly. *FYI, anyone not sure what I mean by 'in-crowd' I am talking about the stereotypical popular preppy-type girls, who always feel they have a gang who set the mode of what's cool and what's not and look down on others. Let's end with something pretty. Well, where I planted my wildflowers, it appears that marigold bulbs were already there so maybe that's why they didn't grow there! The marigolds grew and are coming out in a beautiful array of orange joy! My mum makes a nice marigold moisturizer out of them so I am having to pick and save when I see they're on the out!!! How are you anyway?x