I wanted to say thank you SO MUCH for all of you that left
such kind comments regarding the death of my Father-in-Law. His funeral is to take place on the 22nd
of January in Hexham. As I sit and write
this on Sunday 14th January, his brother is trying to write his
obituary for the local paper and CBC has written the eulogy for the
funeral. I wanted to so much to share my
love for him and key memories connected to him. Please don’t feel compelled to
read this but it is something I really wanted to write.
WOMOTM stood for Wise Old Man Of The Mountain. This became
his blog pseudonym because I am reluctant to share names of family members- the
reason for this name will become apparent. I remember when I first met him he
seemed to me, to be such a sweet, kind man. He would not necessarily come
across that way in all situations as he could be quite brusque and not the most
talkative, but if you got to know him, he was such a kind, gentle soul. I
always think of him as being fiercely loyal and fond of his family. He loved everyone coming up to see him. He was extremely generous yet always careful
with money which is a stance to finances I respect greatly.
I remember back in February 2010 when CBC took me to
Northumberland, when I said goodbye to him and he gave me a big hug (bear hugs
only when you arrived and left- he wasn’t one for affectionate hugs every day),
I knew that I loved him and wanted to be part of his family. It was bitterly cold that year and I lived
then, in my childhood home which had no central heating. But in Northumberland, the bed came with an
electric blanket. It was a revelation! I had never experienced such luxurious
warmth at bed time! I remember the Christmas or was it that Birthday, that they bought me an electric blanket for
home and winter freezing was no longer an issue. Last year, he sent us an electric duvet as a
Christmas present to keep us warm as he thought that was much better than the
blankets!
He always said he liked it when I came up there because I
helped him with the washing-up. I often
tried to get there before him to avoid him being chained to the washing up
sink. CBC used to laugh and say that his
dad used to hum the tune form the ‘Slaves Chorus’ as he did the washing up in
previous years. This always made me giggle. He was meticulous about cleaning
and the housework and could be a tyrant over his routines. Many a time, I came
towards the kitchen and didn’t dare enter as the mop stood like a rigid sentry
to stop any entry as the floor was mopped clean! We used to laugh at it because
it was such a clear signal.
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| DO NOT ENTER THE KITCHEN |
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| Maybe mocking the mop! |
Any memory of going to Northumberland is always integrally
linked with the excitement of seeing him. He’d always send emails saying how
much he was looking forward to us coming up.
And I remember the excitement at arriving at his warm house in
Haltwhistle- the sofas with the Latin writing on, the enormous Apple screen,
the photos to see, the enormous shower with its squeegee, the poetry book which
sat on the shelf in the toilet which I would sit and read when in there- how I
learnt to recite Jabberwocky and Daffodils whenever I was up there. He used to
smile when I came down to recite what I had learnt but was also able to correct
me and/or complete it if I failed. He was greatly fond of poetry and had
memorised a great deal.
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| At our wedding with a friend. Wearing J's, not pictured, hat. |
One thing I loved was his willingness to always stop and
smile for a photo. Most of CBC’s family always groan and hide when I try to
take a picture but he always put on his friendliest smile for me. As I write
this, I am gutted that I recently lost my portable hard-drive which was from my
old lap top which houses all my photos from the past- it has many happy photos
of our times with him. I was sad because I wanted to share this hilarious photo
from CBC’s sister’s wedding in which he wore his wife’s bright pink hat, but
look, I found one from our wedding where he wore her purple one!
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| Hindscarth 2011 |
Photography was a great love of his- apparently he founded
the Photography society at the school he worked at in Hexham for 29 years. Most
of my memories of walks with him and any occasions involve his enormous SLR
camera attached to his Berghaus rucksack- he let me have his Berghaus rucksack
last Summer which I shall cherish. He
always generously allowed me to use his photos on my Blog posts and told me
that I didn’t have to acknowledge them as his.
So many beautiful photos were taken and shared. He would upload his
photos at the end of a day and would take great pleasure in editing them in
Photoshop, lightening any shadows and sharpening images and I would await the great
sharing of these with bated breath! For our wedding, he printed out and made
some lovely collages of photos of CBC and I and.
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| Ridley Hall 2013 |
And how could I forget the infamous Wedding Invitation
photoshoot. We went with him to the grounds of Ridley Hall in Northumberland to
take photos and had great fun taking photos until the three of us were asked to
leave the grounds as apparently it was now private property with kids on site!
In addition, he was the great benefactor to this blog of not
one, but two tripods! He knew I wanted to take outfit photos and gave me his
spare which I used until I misplaced it and then he gave me his good one! I use
them to this day! His other great
contribution to this blog was also the Pink Canon Ixus Camera which was a 31st
Birthday present. This marvellous camera has taken thousands upon thousands of
photos for this blog and has lived in my handbag for 6 years, taking photos on
a daily basis. He was always really pleased when he mentioned this camera
saying with a smile, that I had really made good use of it.
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| Hindscarth 2011 |
My latter-life love of walking is down to CBC and him. Every time we came up to Northumberland in
the early years of mine and CBC’s relationship, he would plan a walk in the
Lake District for us. He always said he liked walking with me as I walked at
his pace (CBC and his brother were mountain goats who would speed on ahead.).
He always loved planning where we would go next. The first walk was in July of 2010- he chose
Catbells as my inaugural peak walk and the three of us walked on Catbells in
perfect weather. It was a wonderful walk and many breath-taking views were
seen. Other walks followed- Robinson and
Hindscarth, Castle Cragg and my personal favourite- Rannadale Knotts. Following his heart-attack on Summer when we
were there, he found it harder to climb and this was a good walk with a burst
of short uphill and then glorious ridges and downhills. We repeated this walk
in glorious weather which we planned in advance as it was such a pleasant
journey. One other glorious walk I
remember taking was in December 2014- we walked from Steel Rigg to Halsteads
along Hadrian’s Wall. The weather was
utterly stunning- we were bathed in golden light as we reached our conclusion
and he, CBC’s brother and I were so utterly delighted by this experience.
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| Sycamore Gap. Christmas 2014 |
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| WOMOTM by Cawlfields |
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| The end of the walk at Halsteads when all was golden. |
It was around 3 years ago that he was diagnosed with
Pulmonary Fibrosis and it restricted his ability to walk more- we had fewer
walks as time went on but I do remember possibly the last happy walk we had in
October 2016. He had said that his
walking days were over as he just struggled so much to walk but we managed to
persuade him to take a short walk around Haltwhistle. I kept stopping,
ostensibly to take photos but in reality in order to allow him to catch up and
not feel he was holding us up and it worked- he had felt gloomy before that and
after that walk, which was a real halcyon day in the autumnal gloom- he was
pleased with himself for having managed to have a walk and not feel he was
holding us up. I remember the delight I felt then as I had felt really bad
about how gloomy he had been before that.
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| Haltwhistle |
Two other walks or moments stand out in my mind- one was
when we walked to the Prisoner of War camp near Haltwhistle. We got caught in absolute torrential rain on
the way back and since he and CBC are fairweather walkers, they were both game
not to get annoyed with me for having pestered them for a walk. As we had walked, he told me a personal story
connected to that PoW camp which he had never shared with the family and they
were astonished to hear it. The other
was when we took a family holiday to Sarlat in France in July 2016, before CBC
went off to Costa Rica for a month. He had not had a holiday in years and he
was so grateful, effusive and thankful over it and I remember him planning that
we would go to Avion the next year, alas unfulfilled. We went to this Chateau and he couldn’t hear
the words very well, so the pair of us sneaked off and walked in the grounds
and found a Bamboo maze to walk in!
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| Hiding from the heat in the Bamboo maze |
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| I can see you! Me in the moat- WOMOTM on the bridge! |
He was a retired Maths teacher and taught me about Binary
numbers- I remember the Christmas we had the epic Christmas quiz- there was a
Maths round that was very hard! I remember his making some 3D shapes out of
straws and then subsequently I bought him some metre-long straws in order to
allow him to make something like the Great Stellated Dodecadodecahedron! He had this amazing book which had all these
complicated shapes I had never heard of!
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| His mechanical calculator! |
He was a good and kind man who always made me feel welcome,
maintained a kind interest in my interests- be those blogging- he was a silent
reader of this page; Doctor Who (he used to record it for me when we didn’t
have a TV; card-making, and books I read- I remember his saying we could watch
The Hunger Games when we went up there as I had recently read them. Whilst it
was harder to spend time with him in recent times, since he was ill, he was not
very sociable and found it hard to cope with company, he was always humble and
never wanted to cause anyone any bother.
Writing this and looking for photos, I have shed many tears and I feel
so sad at the years we will not get to spend with him- despite his illness,
despite the fact he was receiving Palliative care, he was such a determined
guy, that I really did not see him dying when he did- I imagined us going back
up there in February half term and watching Blade Runner which we had
pre-ordered for him for Christmas.

I am gutted and sad that this horrid lung-disease robbed him
of many more years- we all imagined him going strongly into his 90’s since he
was walking fells aged 80. I don’t know
how I shall feel going up to Northumberland without him. He was who and what I
immediately thought of whenever I knew we were going up there. I regret that we
did not go up there often- usually around 4-6 times a year and although he was
not a man who talked about feelings and things like that, I wish I had told him
how much I grew to love him and was grateful so much for his friendship and
kindness. WOMOTM, know this from the
very centre of my heart, that I am so, so glad I knew you and I will miss you
greatly.
it's absolutely perfect for a Wise Old Man Of The Mountain! Love this Kezzie, I might have to steal the idea, I always struggle with cards for men.
ReplyDeleteTotally hadn't realised that was what WOMOTM stood for, but I'm glad he liked his card!
ReplyDeleteBrilliant idea for a card! I think one day you should write a post or a page for your blog with a list of all the people who feature in your blog and what their letters stand for! I didn't know what WOMOTM stood for either!
ReplyDeleteCute boot!
ReplyDeleteVery clever - it looks great! I've never read Terry Pratchett. Must put him on my list...
ReplyDeleteOne thing - I want to see you in Birmingham again! Second, this card is amaaaaazing! Change it for a pair of Mary Janes or ballerinas and the background would please me a loooot, too! I am glad that he liked it (your father-in-law, I know the abbreviation) and you are always so talented! You are really so sweet, dear Kezzie, never ever change your sweet way! Hugs and kisses!
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What a wonderful card. It looks so pretty and I love the idea behind it. I would have been so happy to receive it, so I can only imagine how delighted was WOMOTM.
ReplyDeleteWow, you are so clever! I always struggle with cards for men.
ReplyDeleteThis is amazing! I love all of the tiny details :) xx
ReplyDeleteThe card is perfect for your father in law. I bet he appreciated that you made this especially for him. Good for you. You are so cleaver.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
JB
oops, that should be "clever"
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It's a lovely card, Kezzie! I am in awe of your creativity! Have a great week!
ReplyDeleteFar more than suitable, more like wonderful.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I don't think a Wise Old Man Of The Mountain could've gotten a better gift! And besides, I LOVE hand-made presents, those are the one's I personally cherish the most and keep the longest. Aside from a bottle of alcohol.:D But those I dispose of rather quickly. Anyhoo, happy b-day WOMOTM!!
ReplyDeleteLove it, you do come up with some good ideas.
ReplyDeleteLisa x
This is brilliant, you're very talented. I love seeing your creations and the fact that you mentioned Terry Pratchett, one of my all time favourites. I do not know why, but it will never let me sign in with wordpress on here! Lucy (booksnbrooches)x
ReplyDeleteWhat a great card - glad he liked it.
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What a great idea Kezzie, it is brilliant!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing at Creative Mondays x
wow, this is amazing!
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