Just a thought for the day.
Someone was doing something today that I knew to be wrong. But that individual tends to be a bit snarky and snappy if you try to correct them on it and quite often does things you comment on, I feel, just to make a point that they do what they want (like throwing their plastic bottle in the bin instead of the equidistant recycling bin EV-ER-Y. day despite the proximity and the better moral option being pointed out quite gentl). I do like this person however and they have lots of great merits.
They were doing something that I know they would get into trouble for and someone else saw the uncomfortable looks that I was giving them. I mentioned to the person observing after, that they shouldn't be doing that, because they would get into trouble and the other person said that they didn't say anything to them because that person doesn't like criticism.
I mentioned it to another acquaintance, mentioning my dilemma and she reminded me that you must always tell the person, for their own sake, even if it it makes things uncomfortable for you in the process. And she was right.
I knew I was seeing that person next so I resolved to tell them. Alas, in the busyness of the daily grind, I clean forgot to tell them but I will tell them. Doing it kindly, letting them know you have their best intentions at heart- well, it's worth the effort, I think, even if I am a bit nervous to do it.
Brave heart!
Now I've just got to remember to do it!!
Have you been in a situation like that?
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Thursday, January 24, 2019
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This sounds like this person has a narcissistic personality. Remember my post on Energy Vampires? They do as they please and they normally don't like to be told and there is a whole bunch of other negative traits about these people. They have disregard for following directions on how to behave and so many things.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure that you will be very diplomatic to make your point but I wouldn't be surprised that this person will totally disregard your concerns. Just my thoughts. tell me if I'm wrong.
Hugs,Julia
This person sounds like a child. They need to sort themselves out.
ReplyDeleteI doubt I'd be as diplomatic as you! xx
I am trying to do the right thing for me at the moment, but I know that it might make me unpopular with certain people. Clue: I went for a job interview today. Wish me luck.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard when you know you'll probably receive snarky comments, and they'll perhaps do it again to spite you, but you have to do the right thing. If it's done with kindness you can do no more. The rest is up to them.
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yes, it is not the easiest thing to do, but sometimes it has to be done.
ReplyDelete"Doing it kindly, letting them know you have their best intentions at heart- well, it's worth the effort, I think,"
ReplyDeleteI agree.
All the best Jan
An interesting dilemma...not sure I'd bother if it's only going to get the perpetrator into "trouble" without damaging others...maybe I'd try the telling them you saw them and asking them what they think you should do and the consequences of your actions for you and others? But do let us know what you did and how it went and well done for trying
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